I am a Motherhood Activist and spoke at an international conference (see previous blog) about the subjectivity of Motherhood. The traits of a good mother are always named as: being a good nurturer, being always there for your child, being supportive, endlessly patient, being loving all the time, always putting your child first over everything else and providing an environment of constant activity and fun.
The world we live in puts so much pressure on Mothers: mothers who don’t work are expected to be constantly sacrificial towards the needs of their children because if mothers don’t work then they must have all the time in the world to tend to their children; and mothers who do work must suffer the guilt of being away from the family home and never be bold enough to proclaim that work is an important part of her life.
With such an onslaught of prescriptive information and advice on motherhood I think a push back is needed to stop us going mad. Shake off the shackles of strait jacketed mothering. Be subjective in your approach to mothering but without faltering from the paramount role of giving love and providing a level of parental control that sets boundaries for your children. Weave your own motherhood story out of this and throw away the ‘how to’ books on what you should and shouldn’t be doing.
Happy Mother’s Day.