Do you find being a mother a boring experience?

I love being a mother. It’s the best role in my life and always will be. My 23 year old daughter has brought me untold joy from the moment she was born. It hasn’t all been plain sailing because life is real and not a Disney movie. Diminishing returns did set in during the teenage years and the veneer of motherhood was somewhat tarnished but the underlying joy never ceased.

The baby years were the best. Observing a little human being discover the world around them, learning to walk and talk, was a daily source of fun. The accumulative total of it all was akin to finding the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

During her toddler years, I discovered the creative side of myself which I had long forgotten. We did finger painting together, built little (non) animal looking things from plasticine and marveled at what she had made even if it was tremendously wonky. Who cares if a pig looks like a dog when the point was to have plasticine fueled fun?

So it was with dismay that I read this article titled, ‘It’s time we admitted how utterly boring motherhood can be’. She finds the routine of motherhood boring. It’s a pretty raw article warts and all. The writer congratulates herself for her honesty in admitting that she finds mothering boring. She says that she is giving other parents permission to admit the same. The article was written on the back of the tennis player, Johanna Konta, going public with her take on motherhood being a boring experience.

My mothering experience wasn’t and isn’t a ‘motherhood and apple pie’ existence, by the way. There were many times when my daughter tested my patience or would display strong streaks of being independent minded but at the wrong moments. She wanted to wear a swimsuit to nursery at the height of winter and cried inconsolably when I didn’t let her. My patience was worn thin. Exhausting? Yes. Boring? No.

While I think that the writer is right in encouraging other mothers and fathers to admit to vulnerabilities in their view of parenting, I do think that it’s a pity that she has picked on how she sees motherhood as boring. Being a mother is hard work. It involves untold patience, being challenged and having to hold one’s tongue and enormous sacrifice. Nothing to do with sainthood but everything to do with motherhood.

Using the word ‘boring’ and encouraging others to admit to feeling the same way somehow seems to place this emotion on a par with the real difficulties of mothering – balancing work and motherhood, finding time to rest yourself and having money to buy nutritious food given the cost of living crisis.

It’s one of the things one reads and wonders whether honesty, in that particular case, ought to be admired. How will her child/ren feel one day about it? Their formative years being labelled as ‘boring’.

Labelling motherhood as ‘boring’ seems to suggest that other parts of our lives are teeming with excitement, fun challenges and non-repetitive action. Really? I want some of that live because most people’s lives consist of the same old routine with or without kids. Johanna Konta, the tennis player, compares motherhood to the excitement of competing on the tennis circuit. Does professional tennis playing not involve routine and practising the same shot over and over again?

What is the equivalency between motherhood and playing tennis? I am struggling to see her point because she isn’t comparing like for like – everyday tennis playing with everyday mothering.

Don’t get me wrong. I know that motherhood, as with any other role we play in our lives, can bring moments of boredom. That’s an unalterable fact of life. People normally, though, don’t tarnish an entire role or facet of their life as being boring.

Motherhood is a profound and life-altering journey that millions of women embark upon with joy, anticipation, and sometimes, trepidation. However, amidst the challenges and rewards, a common misconception persists that being a mother is a monotonous and dull experience. Being a mother is anything but boring. Here are reasons why:

  1. A Dynamic and Ever-Evolving Role:

Being a mother is far from boring because it is a dynamic and ever-evolving role. From the moment a child is born, mothers are faced with a plethora of responsibilities, challenges, and joys. They continually adapt to their child’s growth and changing needs, making every day different and unique. Each stage of a child’s development brings new experiences, from the awe of their first steps to the pride in witnessing their accomplishments.

  1. Nurturing Bonds and Emotional Fulfillment:

Motherhood is a profound journey that involves building deep emotional connections with our children. The unconditional love, care, and support we offer them provide a sense of fulfillment and purpose that transcends any mundane routines. Witnessing the smiles, laughter, and milestones of our children fills our hearts with joy, making the journey as a mother inherently rewarding.

  1. Lifelong Learning:

When you become a mother, you enter a world of constant learning. Parenthood challenges you to acquire new skills, knowledge, and insights. From researching the best practices for feeding and sleeping to understanding your child’s emotional needs, being a mother necessitates continuous growth and adaptability. Embracing this learning process can be intellectually stimulating and engaging, keeping boredom at bay.

  1. Problem-Solving and Creativity:

Motherhood demands problem-solving skills and creative thinking on a daily basis. Mothers navigate through various obstacles, from finding innovative solutions to soothe a crying baby to managing schedules and balancing multiple tasks simultaneously. The ability to think on your feet and find imaginative approaches fosters a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence, further dispelling any notion of boredom.

  1. Creating Lasting Memories:

The moments we spend with our children become cherished memories that endure throughout our lives. From the small triumphs to the family adventures, being a mother allows us to create a treasure trove of beautiful memories. Whether it’s watching your child’s first school play or embarking on a family vacation, these experiences provide us with a sense of fulfillment and joy that lingers long after they occur.

Conclusion:

Being a mother is a multifaceted and exhilarating experience that defies any notion of boredom. The continuous growth, emotional connections, and memorable moments make motherhood a transformative journey that many find deeply fulfilling. It is important to challenge the misconceptions surrounding motherhood and recognize the richness and complexity of this role. Embracing the ups and downs of being a mother can lead to a rewarding and enriching experience that surpasses any preconceived notion of monotony.

What is your opinion? Boring or Rewarding? An interesting debate in the video below.

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