There is no straitjacket of identity for what an ambitious mother looks like. We come in all shapes, sizes, colours, nationalities, race and cultures. Wanting the best for our children is the unifying thread. I am not just talking about educational attainment though I consider it to be extremely important.
Ambition pervades every part of mothering. We want our children to have social skills, good manners, morals, virtues, a good circle of friends and the list goes on. Is this you?
I am looking to create an online community of ambitious mothers who are willing to share experiences, philosophies and advice. Do tell me who you are and I will list your blog on my blogroll. The reason I am doing this is because I cannot find mothers who are willing to add the word ‘ambitious’ to their mothering. The stigma in a patriarchal society of being an ambitious woman seems to have extended its negative self into mothering too.
Shake the shackles off and leave a comment.
There is no doubt that something or lots of things are needed to facilitate the entry of disabled person into the workplace. This is because having a disability does not rob a person of having aspiration, aims and the ambition to work for their living. The link between welfare and disability is not a universal application to all persons with disabilities.
The Chief Executive of Radar, a charity for disabled persons, Liz Sayce says that at the current rate of progress it would take until 2070 for the employment rate for disabled people to catch up with the rate for non-disabled people. About 53% of disabled people are unemployed or working below their potential. So what is needed to speed up the process of employment?
Liz Sayce says that individualised support, mentoring and role models are key to success. I notice that debates about equality and fair access revolve around the concept of poverty which involves an assumption that everybody is non-disabled. A change in such assumptions is needed before progress can be made.
‘Why do paedohiles have more rights than our kids?’ was the question raised in an Australian case where a man who allegedly abused children under the age of 14 had the charges against him dropped because of the difficulty of obtaining evidence from the children in question.
Children with disabilities are at greater risk from abuse for various reasons: they have less contact with the outside world; some cannot speak or understand what is happening to them; and a myriad of people may have intimate contact with them when it comes to personal care. There are many more reasons than this but all have one purpose – to demonstrate how vulnerable children with disabilities are and how much more the bar ought to be raised when it comes to protecting them.
The wellbeing of any and all children ought to be of the highest standard which incorporates the elements of state concern and assistance, a society that accepts everyone as equals and a unified system of working among multi agencies that deal with children’s issues. Many parents of children with disabilities find it extremely hard to understand the system and how to engage with the multiple layers of care on offer.
According to a Unicef report in 2005, children with physical, sensory, intellectual or mental health disability are among the most stigmatized and marginalized of all the world’s children. This says it all doesn’t it?
The scenes of people in the Horn of Africa having to walk for miles to the nearest UN camp seems to suggest a survival of the fittest, if that word can be used at all for millions of people who are weak from a lack of food. Mothers are having to decide which of their children to save during the trek and are leaving behind the weakest ones who are unlikely to survive.
I have been wondering about how people with mobility impairments are coping with having to walk all those miles in stifling heat. Does anyone have any information on this? From my reading of general material on the subject there is a suggestion that women with mobility impairments are often the worst hit.
Disability is an issue that is being embraced in development objectives. The Australian government has recognised it as such in the giving of foreign aid. The Millennium Development Goals (MDG) has also recognised disability as a development objective and states that 10% of people with disabilities count towards the world’s population but account for 20% of global poverty. That is a hugely disproportionate figure by any account.
Part of the fightback must come from helping to mainstream disability as part of society and it is a responsibility borne by everybody, not just charities and organisations. The Disability Hate Crime campaign is seeking to change attitudes towards people with disabilities. The vulnerable are not there to be targets of malicious actions. Changing attitudes starts with every single human being.
‘The Domestication of Motherhood’ is the title of a chapter in Adrienne Rich’s book, ‘Of Woman Born’. As the summer school holidays approach the relevance of the title becomes more apt for some mothers. There’s been a plethora of articles on how mothers are stressed and are dreading the prospect of having their children around for weeks on end.
Much of motherhood is about cooking and cleaning; making sure the children do their homework; ferrying the children to their classes; and ensuring that their quality of life is satisfactory overall. It is hard work. Somewhere in between all this mothers are also expected to experience the joy of motherhood while suffering from exhaustion.
Domestic life is still ruled by a patriarchal society. According to Adrienne Rich, man relates to a woman as a mother in a practical mode. I interpret this as meaning that man expects woman to look after the home because he sees domesticity as being part of the domain of motherhood. Domesticity isn’t seen as being serious work either eventhough it forms a part of motherhood. A mother is only doing what comes naturally to her so society doesn’t see domestic work as being important.
It really is a vicious cycle but I see women all around me who manage to combine the domestication of motherhood while still retaining their female independence and managing to look after their children well. It’s called multi-tasking; a phrase which men hate. Nevertheless, it is only when the ‘The Domestication of Motherhood’ becomes an outdated phrase that women can claim true autonomy in the domestic arena.